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[quote=Anonymous]My husband is obese and has been most of his life. He had a very rough childhood (lots of shame, emotional abuse, and alcoholism) and often shoveled food into his mouth to leave the table as quickly as possible. He also has a very unhealthy relationship with food and overeats significantly.

His portion size has always been very large. Now, with the stress of everything going on in the world, it has gotten even more so. Tonight we had dinner and I cooked a full large chicken. My daughter and I each ate about a quarter of a chicken, and he ate the rest. When he makes eggs for himself, it’s generally three or four with 3 pieces of toast. He just can’t seem to stop, and often he shoves it into his mouth, getting food on his face. This is shockingly, as in all most aspects of his life he is very meticulous and controlled.

It is very hard for us to watch, and quite disturbing. Naturally, it is sad for us to think about his health. But it also it’s just shocking to see someone eat that much, without listening to their body or ever getting full. Tonight after dinner, my daughter spoke to me privately about how upset it makes her.

I would like to talk to him about it, but I am not sure how to approach it in a way that will not induce shame nor be counterproductive. He knows that his weight is unhealthy, but he feels that he can’t change it. This is just the way it is. Although, there have been times when he has made a change. He used to drink soda a lot, but has changed entirely to drinking seltzer.

Any thoughts or suggestions?

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