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[quote=Anonymous]I am a little confused by your post, what the actually problem is. To me you are making assumptions of how your kids should be based on birth order and gender.

It also seems you hover over your son. I have noticed this is often the case with moms and sons, they pamper the sons and assume their daughters are okay and strong. The reality is they just have expectations of their daughter that allows her to mature while babying the sons.

I'm not saying you have to do exactly the same things for each kid, because each kids has different needs, but you do need to be fair.

Does he have a history of not eating, overheating etc?  Do you know why you hover over him like this?

Does he have ADHD or something else that would cause him to struggle with noticing thes things?  If  he does you should be working with a therapist so that overtime he can develop strategies to get these things done, and do them on the own so that when he turns into an adult he's not dependenat on you or his wife to  function. 
You also don't help his anxieties by teaching him he needs you to do everything for him or remind him to do everything for him.

Both kids are also only in elementry school, things change all the time with kids, and rapidly.  Things might be easy breezy for your daughter now, but they may become more of a stuggle say in middle school, or she may struggle in different areas than you son. So you can't just put her in a box.[/quote]

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