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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Following this. We are 10 months out from wife discovering my affair and we have made some strides but then some setbacks. I am willing to do whatever is necessary but at some point, if she is just going to resent me forever, then I prefer we break up now. [/quote] You need to do more work on yourself if you frame this as “she is going to resent me forever”. You are saying you are “willing to do whatever is necessary” which foists all the emotional labor on her of the repair of your deep betrayal. And the fact that you prefer to break up now if she is not going to forgive you later means that you haven’t learned from your betrayal - the ability to put another’s needs first. BTW, she invested a ton of time in your relationship which turned out to be a negative ROI for her. Why do you feel you are owed a guaranteed positive ROI from her? [/quote]
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