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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I teach high school.  Money and personality are big factors.  For girls looks help, for boys being funny or athletic. [b] All have confidence[/b].[/quote]

All PROJECT confidence.

I ended up sort of being accidentally 'popular' in my college, which was pretty small (about 4500-5000 undergrad)- which I didn't think was even a thing at college but I suppose smaller ones will have this much like high schools. I was a solidly middling kind of HS kid, never had a boyfriend but wasn't socially awkward. Was never allowed to go to parties (meaning no adult drinking parties, I still hung out with my friend group on weekends) but the popular kids who did go were also friends of mine through varsity sports, just like some of the sort of nerdy crowd (like OM, etc) were very welcoming to me. I was NOT confident but I tried to not let anyone know how badly I felt about myself because that would be WAY worse, IMO. So I did that fake it til you make it routine in college and I think I was really, really good at faking it. It wasn't real but suddenly I'm invited to everything, friends with people across all classes sort of known on campus as being very friendly (which  I mean I am, but I'm not someone who is on the welcoming committee, etc). It was very weird in some ways for me and looking back I think a lot of it was that I pretended to not be self conscious at all- which was work. It took a couple years to let even my close friends in to see that I had issues too (very real ones in fact)[/quote]

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