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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you don’t realize before your 3rd is how much you supervise your first two and how that impacts the amount of mess/trouble they get into.  With 3, you have to adjust your mindset and give them more independence and the result is usually that they break some rules and make some messes before you can catch them.  Preemtive parenting just doesn’t work with 3+

What you don’t realize before your 4th is how much you previously relied on a schedule/routine to keep life manageable.  With 4, for at least the first 6-12 months, but also to some extent permanently, life just can’t be scheduled.  Each kid is a variable and there are just too many ways for something to get derailed.  So you have to be a lot more flexible and comfortable adjusting on the fly and you have to just accept that life will be about rhythms instead of routines.

What you don’t realize before your 5th is how much your kids rely on one-on-one moments with you.  For us that was when we needed to change tack and be more intentional and mindful about finding that time.  With 1-4 it happened organically often enough to get everyone’s needs met.  [b]At 5 we needed to actually make a chart to make sure each kid got time with each parent every week.[/b][/quote]

How selfish - why did you have so many kids???[/quote]

How is it selfish to make sure each child gets one-on-one time with each of their parents???

The first PP sounds like a really good parent who’s in tune with her kids needs. It was a very thoughtful post. [/quote]

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