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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that the Lucky Charms thing is undermining.  If DH thought you were overreacting, he could have talked to you about it at a calmer moment later without the kids around. He owes you an apology for that one.

I think the other thing would have totally pissed me off in the moment if I were you, but I think it may make sense for your overall situation (assuming husband is using reasonable methods to get the work done once he takes over and not doing something that essentially rewards 6yo for throwing paper at you).  For us, I know one of us can sometimes get in a bad cycle with a kid and it just needs to be broken by the other parent stepping in and taking over for a little bit.  DH that could be a chance for you and DS to have a break from each other and reset.  If I were you, I think I would do three main things in whatever order makes sense for your family: 
- have some fun time just you and 6yo
- have a talk at a calm time with 6yo about expectations and the wildly inappropriate behavior of throwing paper at you, etc, maybe impose an appropriate punishment (you and DH should both be involved in this so it is clear you are a team)
- have DH be in charge of homeschool for 6yo  for all of next week before you switch back again (or maybe have him in charge of it permanently if you find that works better and if your work schedules allow) to give you and 6yo a break from each other and maybe set up a better pattern

Tempers  are running high for adults, kids, everyone right now because of quarantine/Coronavirus, so I think we all need to cut each other and ourselves a little slack.  If DH can for some reason find a way to work with 6yo better right now, there is no shame in that.  That’s the blessing of having two parents available. You can tag team. [/quote]

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