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[quote=Anonymous]Ds, 6, and I have been butting heads all week -- I ask him to do some school worksheet and he refuses, he physically tries to force my hand away when I turn off the TV, I send him to his room for a timeout, he refuses to stay in his room, balls up paper and throws it in my face. Repeatedly.

I had promised him "Lucky Charms" cereal for a special event next week, I told him if he left his room without completing the worksheet again, he'd lose the Lucky Charms. He leaves again, and I tell him I'm throwing the Lucky Charms out. DH emerges from trying to work (we both have FT jobs and are working from home in this mess), tells me that's not a fair punishment for DS.

I work with our younger son, ds4, he does his work despite DS6 trying to distract him. Dh comes out of room again, tells me he is taking DS6 and "I will calmly work with him to get the work done."

I start my work day at 5am, get several hours done to then swap child duties with DH so he can work. I have started every day this week calmly, and most days, except today, have remained calm despite DS6 behavior.

I told DH if he really wanted to help me, he would take our other child so I could get things back on track with ds6. He refused. I just feel completely undermined on all counts here -- it doesn't help me to have a kid refuse to listen to me all morning, then have my husband come in and play hero by getting kid to do work after I've fought with him all morning.

What am I doing wrong here?
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