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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m wondering what it looks like for others? I’m so bored, lonely and frustrated but can’t decide if it’s my age, this time of life or if it’s my marriage that is so difficult. Are you happy? Do you have true connection and friendship? Am I just ungrateful? [/quote]

It's interesting that you did not mention resentment or bitterness.  Dig deeper and see what the cause is of your boredom, loneliness and frustration.  Those are 3 distinct areas and may not be attributable to your marriage.  Boredom can be solved by activities and depending on who you do the activity with, that will solve your loneliness.  Are you sure it's your marriage?

As for me, I've been in and out of a "depressed" state in my 16 year marriage for the last couple/few years.  My spouse doesn't feel that the marriage is the problem.  So I started working on myself.  Physical activity does wonders.  I also took the initiative to spur more conversation with my spouse, spend more time together (some might call this date night but sometimes these were during the day, without our kids), and got some 1 on 1 counseling (some from friends, some professional).  Long story short, there was a lot of stuff happening in my mind and in my heart and I had to address and organize that first before I brought my spouse into it.  Like other posters have said, marriage is always a work in progress and I wish you the best on your journey.  I'm learning that a good marriage is different for everyone and that it is the journey, not the destination that I should focus on.  [/quote]
Similar story. Did you try meds, too?[/quote]

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