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[quote=Anonymous]This is kind of an ongoing issue for us. He would never miss our kid's birthday or anything like that. But he doesn't take initiative to do anything for birthdays or other occasions. He actually just said to me the other day "we're not doing anything for each other for Valentine's Day, right?". I'm not a big fan of Valentine's Day, but I do think it's important to model for the kids that the parents do nice things for each other on birthdays and other occasions.

DH and I have pared gifts to each other down to birthdays. We tend to buy something we both want for the holidays--like this past year we bought a new refrigerator as our holiday gift to each other. But he tends to fall pretty flat on the one time a year he needs to think of a gift for me which bums me out more than I'd like to admit. A few years ago I had my best friend tell him that he needed to at least get me a cake for my birthday after I was buying my own for a few years because I wanted our child to see that families celebrate each other and it's not just the parents celebrating the kids. I'll even tell him things that I would like--like there's a concert on my birthday this year that I'd love to go to and I told him that and he pooh poohed it because he doesn't like the venue. So instead he'll get me a gift certificate for a massage or something that took absolutely no forethought or effort.

I get that some people just aren't naturally into gift giving or planning things for others, but you can't expect people to celebrate you and then do jacksh*t to celebrate others. [/quote]

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