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[quote=Anonymous]Shaming is (1) intentionally embarrassing your kid (making a punishment public that doesn't need to be, telling other people about the child's behavior for the purpose of making them feel bad) or (2) saying something intended to make your kid feel like a bad person because of the behavior. "The toy doesn't work because you threw it against the wall and it broke" is not shaming. "You broke the toy because you are a disobedient, wild kid who didnt listen and throw it against the wall even though you know better" is. And you have to get over the idea that shame/bad feelings are to be avoided at all costs. You shouldn't try to *make* your kid feel bad, but if they feel bad because of what they did, that's natural, and they are less likely to do it again.[/quote]
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