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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no problem kindly explaining to my kid why something happened — you threw the toy, and so it broke. But my 3yo asks “why” constantly (of course), and on the 5th time of “why doesn’t this work?” “Because a piece is broken” “why is it broken?” “Because you threw it”, it starts to feel more like blaming or shaming vs just a fact— even if I try to say it totally matter-of-factly. I think there is value in understanding the consequences of actions; I don’t want to create a negative relationship where my kid feels blamed. Any thoughts on how to find the right balance?[/quote] What about when your kid is older and gets into a fight and hurts someone and gets in big trouble - will you try not to blame your kid then? I don’t get this whole “never ever make your kid feel bad about anything” culture some parents believe in. How is this helping anyone?[/quote]
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