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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Try never to label the person, but the behavior. "Kicking the back of my seat is really annoying to me. Could you please stop?" "Jumping onto the cat was mean. Can you apologize to him and get him a treat?" versus "You are being annoying by kicking the back of my seat" or "You are mean for hurting the cat."[/quote] Just wanted to note WHY to frame language this way - when kids begin to believe "I'm annoying" or "I'm mean" they tend to lean into it, and find it really hard to behave against expectations. It isn't just that they feel badly about themselves, but that they live up to our descriptions of them.[/quote]
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