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[quote=Anonymous]I carved out time for me and DIDNT feel guilty about it.   I used to burn the candle in  all directions and then beat myself up when I became exhausted or stressed or depressed or just completely checked out.   DH was always there making sure I had time to take care of me and to do things for myself, but I always felt guilty.    About 6 months ago DH finally confronted me about what he saw.  He said I was happy when I was out doing things or when we went out together or as a family, but when I was at home, especially when we weren't doing anything, he could.see how unhappy I was.  He knew I was stressed about a few things in my life (weight gain, emotionally taxing job, dad's declining health" and he was worried that I was going to have a breakdown.

And he was right, I was heading towards that.  Because whenever I did something for myself, I always had the thoughts of what I SHOULD be doing instead. Or feeling guilty that DH was doing it.  So I made a commitment to stop thinking like that. I got a self help book, started a workout routine and I am SO much happier.  So maybe it didn't really improve our relationship in a big way (one of the few things I've never been stressed about) by my increased happiness just increased the happiness of the whole house [/quote]

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