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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh my grandmother did something like this! My parents named me Suzanne which apparently was far too Frenchified for my old Irish grandmother. I grew up using a nickname so it should have been even more irrelevant, but for my entire life she addressed me as Susan, including in letters and cards. As far as I can remember, we only ever laughed about it. She was a tough old biddy and those tribal New England prejudices die hard.

OP your MIL isn't cool w/the way you've spelled your daughter's name. You can stew in resentment, correct her ad nauseum, and spend decades fighting over a space. Or consider it an absurd family joke. [/quote]

Great advice to just treat it as an absurd family joke. I'm mostly in that camp, but another thing that is bothering me about it is that grandma subtly (but clearly) prefers our older child, so always miswriting the younger one's name gets to me more than it normally would.[/quote]

NP, and the subtle preference issue does complicate things. I'm in the treat-as-a-joke camp, but you're going to want to keep an eye on unequal treatment that's intended to dismiss/diminish your younger child. That can cause problems you may not recognize until after the damage gets internalized.

A tough old Irish grandmother who resists a name because it's too Frenchified isn't targeting the child, she's uncomfortable with the name. No harm intended, no harm experienced, and not the same thing that you're describing.[/quote]

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