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Anonymous wrote:It's not actually even the spelling - it's the spacing. Our daughter has a double-barreled first name, each name is quite short and only 1 syllable, so it is something like Anne Claire. I understand that this is not to everyones taste but it's what we named her and we love it. To those wondering, we never have had any issues with official forms, schools just calling her just Anne, etc. It is a two syllable name made up of two names that are, for most people, easily recognizable, spelled, and pronounced. It has been a total non issues except that my husband's mom always spells it AnneClaire. Gets things embroidered with AnneClaire, spells it like that in cards, etc. My husband always "reminds" (in quote, because I can't imagine she doesn't realize what she is doing) how our daughter's name is written, but she has yet to make any changes. I just ignore it and don't react (I assume she is looking for some sort of reaction from me?) but it's so odd that she insists on continuing to do this. Anyone else have a similar issue?

The space makes her — and everyone else — think it is a first name, middle name.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not actually even the spelling - it's the spacing. Our daughter has a double-barreled first name, each name is quite short and only 1 syllable, so it is something like Anne Claire. I understand that this is not to everyones taste but it's what we named her and we love it. To those wondering, we never have had any issues with official forms, schools just calling her just Anne, etc. It is a two syllable name made up of two names that are, for most people, easily recognizable, spelled, and pronounced. It has been a total non issues except that my husband's mom always spells it AnneClaire. Gets things embroidered with AnneClaire, spells it like that in cards, etc. My husband always "reminds" (in quote, because I can't imagine she doesn't realize what she is doing) how our daughter's name is written, but she has yet to make any changes. I just ignore it and don't react (I assume she is looking for some sort of reaction from me?) but it's so odd that she insists on continuing to do this. Anyone else have a similar issue?

The space makes her — and everyone else — think it is a first name, middle name.

Anonymous wrote:It's not actually even the spelling - it's the spacing. Our daughter has a double-barreled first name, each name is quite short and only 1 syllable, so it is something like Anne Claire. I understand that this is not to everyones taste but it's what we named her and we love it. To those wondering, we never have had any issues with official forms, schools just calling her just Anne, etc. It is a two syllable name made up of two names that are, for most people, easily recognizable, spelled, and pronounced. It has been a total non issues except that my husband's mom always spells it AnneClaire. Gets things embroidered with AnneClaire, spells it like that in cards, etc. My husband always "reminds" (in quote, because I can't imagine she doesn't realize what she is doing) how our daughter's name is written, but she has yet to make any changes. I just ignore it and don't react (I assume she is looking for some sort of reaction from me?) but it's so odd that she insists on continuing to do this. Anyone else have a similar issue?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my grandmother did something like this! My parents named me Suzanne which apparently was far too Frenchified for my old Irish grandmother. I grew up using a nickname so it should have been even more irrelevant, but for my entire life she addressed me as Susan, including in letters and cards. As far as I can remember, we only ever laughed about it. She was a tough old biddy and those tribal New England prejudices die hard.

OP your MIL isn't cool w/the way you've spelled your daughter's name. You can stew in resentment, correct her ad nauseum, and spend decades fighting over a space. Or consider it an absurd family joke.

Great advice to just treat it as an absurd family joke. I'm mostly in that camp, but another thing that is bothering me about it is that grandma subtly (but clearly) prefers our older child, so always miswriting the younger one's name gets to me more than it normally would.

Anonymous wrote:Oh my grandmother did something like this! My parents named me Suzanne which apparently was far too Frenchified for my old Irish grandmother. I grew up using a nickname so it should have been even more irrelevant, but for my entire life she addressed me as Susan, including in letters and cards. As far as I can remember, we only ever laughed about it. She was a tough old biddy and those tribal New England prejudices die hard.

OP your MIL isn't cool w/the way you've spelled your daughter's name. You can stew in resentment, correct her ad nauseum, and spend decades fighting over a space. Or consider it an absurd family joke.

Anonymous wrote:Oh my grandmother did something like this! My parents named me Suzanne which apparently was far too Frenchified for my old Irish grandmother. I grew up using a nickname so it should have been even more irrelevant, but for my entire life she addressed me as Susan, including in letters and cards. As far as I can remember, we only ever laughed about it. She was a tough old biddy and those tribal New England prejudices die hard.

OP your MIL isn't cool w/the way you've spelled your daughter's name. You can stew in resentment, correct her ad nauseum, and spend decades fighting over a space. Or consider it an absurd family joke.

Anonymous wrote:I would just tell her again and again about the spacing. If she has something embroidered, I would ask her where she ordered it and but a new one with the correction. I would show her the new item and say that is how her name should be written. Ask her if, in the future, she could space it correctly because it is important to everyone in your family.