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[quote=Anonymous]My STBX is similar.  One thing that I have been trying to do is not fall for the trap of being the "mean mom." Just because he feeds the kid McDonalds for every meal does not mean that I have to force-feed quinoa and broccoli. And just because they have constant fun because they never have to do anything hard or disciplined does not mean that I have to spend all my parenting time focusing on routines.  What this means is yes, sometimes I have to deliberately give up a percentage of stuff that I think is important (like more fast food than I would want) but it's more important not to fall into a bad dynamic.  I also have just given up and tried to accept the things that aren't an actual danger to my kid (like going to school dirty or with a light coat.)  There's literally nothing I can do to change it when I'm not there.

TBH I would just give up trying to coordinate discipline with your ex. It's clearly not going to work.  And your kids are old enough to face consequences themselves of staying up too late, not having school materials, etc.

If there IS something that is important to you, accept that you will have to do it yourself.  Don't play games because you know that your DH won't step up. If you want your DS to have his school materials, do it yourself.  Yes it sucks but you have no other choice, really. [/quote]

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