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[quote=Anonymous]Of course you do!  There are no rules there!

Sick of being The Parent while he gets to be The Fun One.

For example, when the kids were with him last week, breakfast was Chick-fil-a each morning.  He got them Subway to take to school for lunch twice.  Dinner was either eaten out or takeaway food.  One kid missed three homework assignments and the other one bombed a test yet she posted at least 15 Instagram stories, posts, and Tik Tok videos the night before and was still posting stuff after 1 AM.

If I say no to buying them some item, he almost always buys it for them.  Our son lost his new airpods (his second pair, btw) and I told him he needed to pay for half up front before he could get new ones.  He came home the next weekend with new ones from dad.

Any punishment at my house doesn't transfer to his.  If I take a phone or video game privileges away, they go right back at his house.  If I say no to a shirt for DD, it gets bought by dad.

When I talk to him about setting some rules and being a parent I get the "why? so they can hate me like you?" from him.  We have a family email account that the teachers use and I've started responding with "this is ex's week so he will take care of this as the kids are with him" instead of stepping in and taking care of whatever needed done.  I thought maybe if some things fell through he'd get his act together, but no, he just makes it up to them with things.  Forgetting to send the needed supplies so our son could do an in class project that lead to him having to write a paper in the library instead didn't upset our son because dad bought him a new toy to make up for forgetting and spun it like "who cares about a lame project when you get THIS toy!"

I'm not some crazy rule person or not a fun person.  The rules are minimal.  It's just minimal rules are less fun than no rules now that they are getting older.  So frustrating!     [/quote]

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