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[quote=Anonymous]I am a 54 year old woman and have a WONDERFUL relationship with my mother.  Truly wonderful.  And with my father, too.  My sister, born 22 months after me, has a strained relationship with both of our parents.  So you never know.

I will also say that there is this whole #boymom thing going on in social media like raising a BOY is SO DIFFERENT FROM A GIRL.  When, in reality, there are more similarities than differences and, like the poster up thread with the teens said, you are raising HUMANS to go out into the world.  Wonderful humans, we hope, but again, you'll know once they are launched, in 20 years.

There are mothers who are disappointed when they have 1 of each because they had wonderful relationships with their sisters and wanted that for their daughter.  Or who wanted 2 boys because.... or 2 girls because....   or to have a larger or smaller age gap between children because.....

I personally had to grieve even having children - I always saw myself as a mother to two children and that's not what's happening.  So, no, I won't say "you are lucky you have 2 girls" - it's just I do know about grieving what you thought you'd always have, hoped you'd have, assumed you'd have..... truly, I do.

Be gentle with yourself.  Be kind to yourself.  Don't hate yourself.  [/quote]

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