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[quote=Anonymous]My kids are good kids, but once in a while they do something they shouldn't.  Generally, since they were small, the routine has been that if they do something they shouldn't do, they get sent to their room, and then a parent comes up to talk to them. Most of the time, for minor things, the parent just follows them right up, arriving 30 seconds later, says "don't do that" and then it's over, but sometimes, for more significant behavior, we let them stew a little, and if it's really major then we might let an older kid stew long enough for both parents to both be there and plan out the interaction.  That's rare though.  If there's a consequence, then the kid is told about the consequence while they're in the room, but most of the time, having to stop whatever you're doing, is the entire consequence and seems to be enough to change their behavior.

This has worked really well for my bio kids since they were little.  But now we have a new kid who has joined our family through adoption, and he clearly associates being sent to his room with someone coming up to beat the crap out of him. Even though we've told him many many times that we don't hit our kids, he's still triggered by seeing a sibling sent out of the room (we haven't actually done it to him).

So, I think we need a new routine.  But it makes me wonder what other families do.  If your kid misbehaves, what's the first thing you do?

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