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[quote=Anonymous]I know you want science OP.  But science says otherwise.  A 12 year olds lack of prefrontal cortex development makes them terrible at understanding the concept of long term consequences.

A few thoughts.

First, I am pretty conservative about kids and sex.  But it sounds like overkill if it’s just a kiss with another 12 year old— and they told you about it.  If you are being realistic, very few people ruin their life by kissing at boy when they are 12. If you hit the panic button, your kid just won’t talk to you later.

Second, peers, peers, peers. It’s why religious fear mongering (which I disagree with) works. One of the best things you can do to keep your kid from making stupid decisions is to encourage them to be friends with kids who aren’t making stupid decisions. Stupid decisions are contagious in teens.  If “everyone else is doing it” it’s hard to stop your kid.  Nerdy kids with sensible parents who enforce limits and have values make awesome teenage peers.

And third, I have gotten far with concrete life examples.  And pointing them out occasionally as they come up in life. “Did you hear about the kid who got into Harvard and were rescinded for racist memes?  The internet is forever.”  “Wow. That poor girl. She was dreaming of being a doctor and now she is going to have to get a GED and work at a dead end job while taking care of a baby.”  It’s more concrete for a tween than abstract, longitudinal research. [/quote]

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