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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]The example from the original poster is not typical cheating. This is an extreme example of people who are idiots who cheated in the wrong place. Don’t cheat around your kids. Vast majority of people married or divorced or single or cheating—your sex life has nothing to do with your children. It only affects children if people make decisions that are vastly stupid like the original poster’s example.

If cheating happens to cause a divorce chances are the divorce would’ve happened anyway and it’s not the cheating that causes the problems it’s the way the parents handle the divorce. In any divorce regardless of cheating some parents handle it well and some parents cause a ton of drama and go after the other parent and make it public and that’s what causes problems—not cheating.

Divorce is not the end of the world for kids but if parents choose to make it the end of the world because they are bitter because a spouse cheated and they got caught then that’s on them for screwing up their kids not on the cheating itself. [/quote]

This can't possibly have been written by an adult.  If the marriage ends due to cheating, it ALWAYS affects the kids.  They have learned that the parent lies and isn't trustworthy, betrayed their other parent (the other most important person in the kids'  lives) and completely destroyed not only the betrayed spouse but the kids as well.  Many, many children in a marriage broken due to cheating never have a healthy relationship again with the cheating parent, whether or not it happens like in the OP's story or with someone the kid never knew.  Your shortsightedness is stunning, but typical of a cheater.  You have to construct a world view that justifies your cheating.[/quote]

I am an adult. Married 10 years. Not cheating. I do not believe cheating or not has anything to do with kids. Sorry, i don’t. Cheating is usually a symptom of a marriage that should not be. People are idiots if the cheat and get caught. But they should divorce first before the marriage is so bad they need to cheat to feel something. However, if cheating is caught, and parents divorce, the kids or anyone should not know. People should not air their dirty laundry in public. That is what is damaging...how a divorce is handled. The actual cheating or any reason for a marriage ending has nothing to do with kids. [/quote]

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