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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]this is an interesting thread. I also had absent parents, and was smart and "mature" for my age. My siblings and I were mini adults. I basically had no guidance whatsoever, and since I was "mature" and smart, I was allowed to do, read, and watch things that were way over my head and left a lot of scars. I read an adult book when I was 8 years old that had the rape and murder of an 8 year old and her mother as the plot line. I still can't imagine how anyone could think an 8 year old girl who was mature for her age was mature enough to handle reading that. (That's just one example.) "Mature" means having had and digested experience, which takes time. It has nothing to do with how a kid acts.

Thanks for bringing this up, OP. I learned a lot reading this thread.[/quote]

My husband, an only child, had a similar upbringing. His parents are so proud that he was always a little adult, so self-sufficient, etc. He walked home from school at a very young age. Latchkey kid even though they made plenty of money for childcare. They treated him like an adult, and talked to him like an adult - which is funny because they themselves were very immature. Sadly, he ended up being sexually abused by his fifth grade teacher, a predator who recognized that no one was there protecting this bright, "independent" child.

I'm not blaming all parents who have this parenting style. But God, I blame my in-laws. I agree with your defn of the word maturity. My husband learned to act mature, but he was not mature at all. He just ended up as a victim.

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