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[quote=Anonymous]As a teacher, I totally know what you mean.  I see lots of those parentified kids.  Kids who are expending energy on things like learning how to get their needs met at an age when other kids are concentrating on developing their creativity and problem solving skill through play.

I also have to admit that I've thought to myself (not to other people until right now) that my kid is very independent.  However, I see that in the context of what I consider age appropriate activities.  For example, at age 12, he'd call me as he was walking home from school and tell me his plan for homework, what he was going to do first, what teachers he'd visited after school to clarify assignments, and how he was planning on dividing up the work of his major social studies project so that he could be finished on Tuesday since he remembered that the nighit before it was due was his Grandpa's birthday and he thought maybe he wouldn't have time to edit his final draft.  In contrast to this, at age 12, I started my projects when my mom figured out I had them and started nagging, or at 8 the night before they were do, whichever came first.

He also signed up for a foreign language class because he did some research and feels that this particular class will help him on the career path he's chosen.  In contrast when I was his age I took Latin, because I lost the form and by the time I got around to telling anyone that I had French and Spanish were full.  If I had gotten to chose I would have chosen French because the Spanish teacher smelled funny, and I heard you got to eat nutella crepes in French.

I swear I didn't neglect him to make him like this.  He's an only child and I could easily be a total helicopter mom. I also didn't teach him to be this way, because frankly planning and organization are not my strengths.  But as one of his teachers said "different kids have different gifts, I think your child's is executive functioning".   [/quote]

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