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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't take her. Let this be an opportunity for her and your DH to bond. She will be fine!! I promise![/quote]

I hope so.  DH rarely spends time with DD one on one (again, a whole other story) and NEVER does bedtime.  He also can have a bad attitude and lack of patience when it comes to taking care of DD.  It's mostly expressed to me, but I worry that spending several hours with her one on one when he's not used to it will drive him to the hilt.[/quote]

Patience with children and being able to bond with them takes practice and time. I think a lot of mothers fall into this habit of protecting kids and dads from each other in a weird way. Like shielding the kids from dad's irritation and shielding dad from their irritating behavior in order to keep the peace.

But part of growing up and having relationships with the people in your family and with all the other people you meet along the way is learning if your behavior annoys people and working through that, and also learning if you're overreacting to something and figuring out how to manage that.

Think of it like parents that let their college kids move home for 10 years and never make them uncomfortable by forcing them to get a job or pay rent. You're not helping the kid by doing that. If you never force DH and DD to figure out how to interact with each other by always being there to referee, you aren't helping either of them. They'll never learn because they don't have to. In the long run it's depriving them of a more intimate relationship with one another, even if it is easier in the short run.[/quote]

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