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[quote=Anonymous]DD is 4.5 and I've never spent a night away from her.  I just started a new job and need to go to the West Coast for a meeting that will require me to be away from home for two nights (fly the night before, take red-eye back).  I don't mind spending a night away from her and HAPPILY would have made this a thing when she was younger if we had grandparents near by.  But now, I really would prefer the first time to be just one night only.  DD loves DH, but he doesn't make her feel "secure" the way I do.  She never turns to him for comfort or snuggles.  We co-sleep (not my choice, fyi) and when DD goes to bed with DH, she tosses and turns for an hour.  When she goes to bed with me, we chat for 10 minutes, she snuggles into me then is out cold.  Their bond could be stronger, but that's a whole other story.  If I go on this trip, DH will put DD to bed the first night and nanny most likely will the second night.  Nanny is wonderful and loving, but DD HATES it when she puts her to bed and seems to have a fear of it.  Anytime nanny comes off schedule, DD gets this wide-eyed fearful look as she asks "is NANNY putting me to bed?" then I have to reassure her that no, I will.  Did I also mention that DD is kind of sensitive?

Anyway, I'm not feeling great about making our first time apart be two nights instead of one, to the point that I'm considering taking her with me.  I will be staying with my parents who can watch her during my meeting, but it'd be a short and therefore tough trip for both of us - fly out Sunday daytime, come back Tuesday daytime.  She'd also miss a couple days of preschool, which is not great, but NBD.

Monday would be the only complete day we are apart so I'm thinking FaceTiming in the morning when she wakes up and in the evening before she goes to bed.  Other than that, I don't suppose there is anything else I can do to make the experience better for her?  Or under the circumstances, would you just take DD with you, in my shoes?[/quote]

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