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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's pretty rough.  Some were fairly ornery to begin with and age just  enhances that.  Some of it is mental decline too, and frustration at the loss of independence.   I see a big difference between my Grandparents and DH's.  His Grandma is almost 95, and if she still had the physical ability would be completely self sufficient.  My Grandma was in assisted living and very unhappy by 85.

If[b] you can, set a schedule to be available. Run their errands with yours.[/b][/quote]

Not the poster you are referring to, but at least with my elderly parent, it's not about the errands. It's about control. There is no interest in being convenient, it's about making someone jump when you say jump and throwing a tantrum when they don't.[/quote]

Even when it’s not about a parent throwing tantrums, it’s still hard. For example, my father would spend hours at the grocery store because it’s entertainment for him and he has nothing else to do, and nowhere that he has to be. I get frustrated because it’s just one task on a long list of things that I have to accomplish during the day. I could run in and get what he wants in a few minutes, but it’s a social event for him. I’ve had to limit the number of trips I can do. I’m really the only family he has, which makes me feel sorry for him, but I have limits on my time.[/quote]

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