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[quote=Anonymous]I think the un-thought-about issue is two generations of older parents.

If you had regular age or younger age parents and you have kids when you are older, odds are, you (2nd generation) won't have to deal with the 1st generation's decline when the 3rd generation is at their most needy.  As a bonus, odds are that the 1st generation can help alleviate stress for you and help you with the 3rd generation.

It's when both the 1st and 2nd generation have kids older, odds are it's a nightmare for the 2nd generation.  Just when your kids are needy, your parents are dead or in decline, and so not only can they not help you, they are in need of you.

My dad was 50 when I was born and my mom was 40.  I had kids late.  Dad had died the year before at 83.  Mom had already had cancer, and it came out of remission when my kids were really young.  Then she had years of bad health and died this spring at age 93.

One of my teens was goign through a hard time (a physical problem that had gotten in the way of school, and started her being depressed) and I couldn't fix my kid, couldn't fix my mom, and I got so stressed out I couldn't eat and was shaking all the time.  This has never happened to me before--I usually stress-eat and I love food, and I've been in stressful situations before, but nothing like this.  I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Any individual could have this bad timing happen to them, but the odds are that a really hard-core sandwich crunch like that will happen is much higher when there are two generations of older parents.[/quote]

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