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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a forty something dealing with parents where one has Alzheimers and one dementia I truly worry about the kids born to older parents and yes I am in that group. Yes, parents can get ill at any age. Yes, there are endless benefits to having older parents including financial stability, parents who have achieved career success and may be more available emotionally, parents with life experience. Yes there is no ideal solution because as I said many wonderful things come from having kids later in life (had one of mine later). However, there will indeed be more 20 somethings and 30somethings dealing with parents with age related issues. It's a living hell some days in my 40s, but at least I have a happy and stable marriage. Not sure early on my marriage could have endured this stress. I have the financial resources to outsource. I have been through lots of adversity and know how to cope in a healthy way. If I dealt with this in my 20s I don't think I had the life experience and reserves to stay afloat.

To be clear, I am not saying, don't have kids later. I had one later. What I am saying is there are going to be more young people facing a crazy kind of hell many of us don't face until middle age or beyond.

I guess to be positive, they will be younger and more energetic so many it won't wipe them out as much. I just hope by that time we have more affordable options available to help these young adults navigate a truly challenging and draining experience.

(Yes, I know not all old people develop dementia and throw tantrums, but my parents did and I cannot imagine doing this in my 20s without having a nervous breakdown).[/quote]

We had kids older and I have thought of these things - but another (many times) benefit of having kids older is you are more financially stable = have your own financial resources to outsource.  So we won't need the kids to do that for us.  But they will have the stress of aging parents at a younger age than we do.[/quote]

OP here. That is a good point. Very important to note, you have thought about it and you don't expect them to be hands on. My parents don't want me outsourcing regardless of it's my money or theirs because they don't like dealing with strangers. This has caused a tremendous amount of stress and they have fired and been fired by quite a few people. I hope more people will be as reasonable as you are.[/quote]

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