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[quote=Anonymous]There's a whole history here of me telling them how I feel and them telling me that I'm paranoid and dramatic and acting like a teenager. Basically my thoughts and feelings are invalidated if it's something that they don't want to hear. Yes, I've been to therapy about this. Yes, I've set boundaries but they continue to encroach upon them. It was much easier to set firm boundaries before I had kids. Now that I have kids and want my kids to have a meaningful relationship with them it's murkier. My kids also like to see their grandparents at games, so that's an aspect I have to consider as well.

I have flat out told them I will never allow my children to be used as a pawn in their guilt game. In the past they've made comments about things like maybe they won't be available to babysit if I'm not going to be "nice" to them and appreciate them. I tell them that's fine, if they choose to not have a relationship with their grandchildren then that's 100% their choice.   At the same time the games and events are in public places that they are allowed to attend so it's not like I can keep them away. The schedules are also posted online so even if we don't provide the information they will find it and show up anyway.

To me it's more of an embarassment socially. Today I was just getting to chat with some moms on the team for the first time and was trying to make some connections with them and then here come my parents who will stand next to me and try to horn in on the conversation with people I am meeting for the first time and then they make socially inappropriate comments.  I don't want to be associated with their behavior. I don't want to make a scene in front of others and make them uncomfortable by treating my parents like children. -OP[/quote]

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