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[quote=Anonymous]Ha I feel like my 3 year old DD could become this kid! We are fighting lying now too and it is hard not to get mad about it!

Agree with other posters about more positive consequences. DD LOVES it when I tell her I'm proud of her. And agree to not let her have the power of the lie, if you know she's messing with you call her on it and don't explain how you know, then they can circumvent that. Just be confident. I agree with the other poster who mentioned having a keyword or something like drama. In our house its a meltdown. Like, do you need some time alone? Looks like a meltdown is coming. And at first we would just have the meltdown but these days she senses it herself actually and will go to her room to be by herself to calm down.

As for the dramatics like the wishing she was her sister. I try to keep in mind this advice/anecdote from my dad, who is a psychiatrist who sees a bunch of kids. He was telling me about these parents who came in distraught because their like 6 year old or something was suicidal and talking about how he was sure he was going to hell and didn't want to be on this earth anymore. And in probing it came out that the first time they said they thought they were going to hell it was after hearing some religious thing and mom FLIPPED OUT and started crying. And so they learned at that first casual mention that this would evoke this extreme display of emotion and love from his parents. As soon as he started talking about dying and hell they would SHOWER him with love and praise and hugs and comfort! So he just kept doing it. It wasn't malicious, just Pavlovian. He basically told them to stop reacting to it at all, even if it was hard, and they did and the kid stopped saying it!

So that isn't to say to avoid real signs of depression or anything. But if your kid is who you say she is (hysterical, fun personality) then I wouldn't leap right to real depression. She has probably just learned that talking about how she wants to be her sister causes you guys to shower her with reassurances.

Kids that young are all kind of sociopathic developmentally, you have to look at them through that lens. [/quote]

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