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[quote=Anonymous]I have a daughter who is a lot like this and I tend to agree with 9:24. Try to figure out ways to defuse and *ignore* the unwelcome behavior, and focus on and praise the good behavior.

Lying is age appropriate, as you point out, so relax on the lectures. She doesn't have the moral capacity to absorb them. My DD is 7 and still lies about brushing her teeth. I simply tell her, with varying degrees of exasperation, that I know she is not telling me the truth, that if she persists she will get in more trouble for lying, and that she needs to go brush her teeth. Then I turn my back and ignore her until she goes and does it.

My DD also frequently will complain of a stomach ache, and often tells her teachers she's sick to get sent to the nurse. I suspect she has anxiety, which is obviously a separate issue, but she doesn't have an illness. I tell her I'm sorry to hear about her stomach ache, and then I move on. No medicine unless she has a fever. And her teachers now get a heads up from me that she is not sick and does not need to go to the nurse, unless they think she LOOKS sick.

My DD is also very dramatic and will expound at length about perceived wrongs, spats at school, etc. I have found it works fairly well to listen for a while, reflect back, ask her how she feels or what she thinks about a situation, give her words to deal with tricky situations as needed, but generally don't give much advice or try to solve the problem. Then, because she will go on forever, I cut her off at some point and tell her that we have talked about it long enough for now and that it's time to move on to something else.

GL OP. I think some kids are just very intense and take more thought to figure out how best to deal with them. I have two other kids and they are the most chill little people ever (so far!). What you're doing right now is putting that thought in and soliciting more strategies until you find the one that works. That doesn't make you a failure at all, quite the opposite in fact.[/quote]

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