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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's realistic that you're going to stop the behavior, which is really just escalated boundary pushing, but you could probably minimize some of it. You can definitely reduce the stress it's causing. What happens if you ignore or brush off the dramatics? I tell my DD she's being "drama" a lot. That's her signal that I'm not falling for her crap. If she's screaming or something, "do you need a timeout to calm down?" With lecturing...my DH is always trying to lecture DD but it flat out does not work and often makes things worse. I would stop repeating things you've explained and if you feel you need to, just say "remember what we talked about; what happens when we lie?" Keep it short, minimal reaction, move on with your day. Not everything is a teachable moment. Also, stop the idle threats about the doctor. You need to send the message that YOU KNOW when she's sick and when she's faking. Right now she thinks she holds the power of that information. Take her temperature if you need to. No fever, no meds! I did once ask DD if we needed to go to the hospital - she actually called my bluff and said yes! We were in the car so I told her if we arrive in 20 minutes and it still hurts, we will go to the hospital. Then I asked her to count as high as she could count. That seemed to calm down whatever the issue was (probably just tired of being in the car). So you could try something like that. With the bugging your other daughter stuff, you need to set DD2 up with an absorbing activity that she does every day at that time so she gets into a habit of leaving older sis alone. Can you play a game with her? Have a "sports practice" where you exercise together? Cook something? Maybe have an activity menu that she can pick from each day. You can praise when she respects boundaries of course, but with my DD at least, the only thing that reliably works is replacing the temptation to bug the person who wants to be left alone with something more fun.[/quote]
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