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[quote=Anonymous]Do you look for when she is doing something right or that you want andpraise her? DS asks for something politely and I will say “Yes you can have water and thank you for being so polite.” He helps set the table and it is “Thank you for helping me out.” Not every time, at least not now, but really, really frequently when we are trying to teach him something or change a behavior.

I want him to know that I see that he is doing something the way we ask him to or something that is hard.

i hope he has learned that I am seeing when he does what we want him to do and noticing.

So maybe look for those moments “You did a great job leaving your sister alone when she asked to be.” “Good work brushing your teeth tonight. I love it when you listen and it is good for your health.”

I also let him know when I am proud of him and why. “DS I am proud of you. I know that it is hard for you to do X and I saw you trying to do X today. Great effort.”

Essentially, accentuate the positive. Still provide consequences of the negative but look for times that you can praise her and let her know that she is doing what you want. Hopefully the negative attention seekign behavior will turn around.

we had the same problem, on a smaller scale, with the medicine. We would remind DS that medicine is for when you are sick and that it can hurt you if you take it when you are not sick or if you take too much of it. So we’ll give you Tylenol if your mysterious leg pain that just creeped up after you have been running around for the last 10 minutes is still there in the morning. And we do ask him if we should take him to the doctor because regular pain means that something is wrong with your body and we need to make sure that you are healthy.  [/quote]

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