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[quote=Anonymous]My son is 5 years old and just started kindergarten.   A new neighbor moved in next door to us in June, and they have a 5 year old girl who started kindergarten this year as well, and who is in the same class as my son. I’ll call her Sally.  We were very busy over the summer so we didn’t see our new neighbors much at all, but I have noticed that just about every time we see them, Sally can’t seem to keep her hands to herself.  One of the first times she played with my son, they played together at another neighbor’s house, and my son came home crying and said that Sally was pushing and shoving him the whole time.  I assumed he was having a hard time in the group, but when I saw the neighbor who was hosting later that weekend, he mentioned how rough Sally was being and that she was pushing and shoving his daughters the whole time.

Another time we saw our new neighbors at our neighborhood pool while I was helping my son practicing his swimming.  Sally insisted on jumping into the pool and swimming to me, like my son was doing, and clung to me the whole time and kissed me several times.  That same day, she and my son were playing in the baby pool during adult swim, and she jumped on his back and slammed him down into the pool and submerged his head under water.  Also that day she was jumping on top of other kids into the pool while trying to play with them.

After that day, I kind of tried to avoid having our kids play together since she is so rough.  But I’ve heard from other neighbors that they have had issues with her pushing and shoving as well.  At a kindergarten open house she pushed my son to the ground again and started dragging him to get up and caused his shorts and underwear to fall down. I also saw her bear hug and pick up another kid that is in their class, who she had just met probably 2 minutes before she was picking her up.  I don’t think she is intending to bully or harm people, and she seems to want to be my son’s friend, but she seems to have no sense of boundaries.

My son loves school so far, but he has continued to complain about her pushing and poking him.  Her parents have remarked casually that she has no boundaries and they hope school will help her with it, but they don’t seem to do much to correct her behavior when she is rough or just touches people in general.  I don’t want it to get awkward with them since they literally live right next door to us, but I see this as a potential problem that I may have to address in the very near future.  If this continues, which I strongly suspect it will, should I speak to her parents directly about this, or make a comment to the teacher and ask her to treat it anonymously for the time being?  
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