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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trying to get down to a healthy weight and am making good progress. But DW is not happy. Is this normal?[/quote]

Is she also overweight? Is she worried you'll be more attractive to other women? Will she feel ugly-guily-shamed in comparison to the new healthier you?

I don't think it is abnormal. But it can mean other things, mostly about her self image and worries.[/quote]

This. This is a very informal study of my own experience losing weight and seeing friends lose weight, but it seems as if a lot of the resentment comes from jealousy. The other spouse is often not in shape and not feeling good about him/herself.

But also, I think sometimes the other spouse feels neglected if the weight loss spouse throws a lot of time into the new exercise activities. I’m a runner for instance. When I was married (I’m divorced) I lost 30 pounds but I admit I got a little crazy with the running. I would skip social events or other things because I felt I had to get a run in. Our divorce was based on other things but I don’t think my focus on exercise over the relationship helped. [/quote]

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