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[quote=Anonymous]Mine was the same way! It's a phase. 
[quote=Anonymous]Not sure what I'm looking for- advice? Commiseration? My 4 year old boy has seemed to just have this simmering anger for the past few months. I had a baby 3.5 months ago and I am sure that's a big part of it- but my husband claims our son was like this sometimes before the baby, too, and thinks it's just the age. He used to be so sweet and docile (unless he was having a tantrum or something, obviously)- but now it's like, "should we walk to the playground?" and he will cross his arms and yell "NO!" and glare at me. Whereas I swear a few months ago he would have just said "no thanks".

I have tried SO HARD to give him the same amount of attention as I did before the baby came to the point where I feel like I ignore the baby too much! Sometimes he will ask me to do something and I'll say "sure just let me put these dishes in the dishwasher first" and he will kind of growl under his breath, annoyed, and then say "well, NEVERMIND", and then not want to do it anymore. Or same if I start to do whatever activity with him but I don't "do it right" (whatever that means on any given day). I don't know if he is just trying out what it feels like to say/act certain ways (this is what my husband thinks) or if he is actually really angry on the inside? And if he is really angry on the inside how can I help him?? Like I said, I give him as much attention as I can and he doesn't act like he dislikes or resents the baby at all (but he might not feel like it's okay for him to express that if he does I guess?)

For what it's worth his teachers at preschool say he doesn't do any of this with them, but I do hear him saying rude/angry things to his dad or grandfather sometimes too so it's not just towards me. (For example today he said to his grandfather in a rude tone "get out of my face!" and i was kind of horrified) He was even saying angry things towards his 8 year old cousin who he used to idolize and do ANYTHING she asked, but he was even rebuffing her invitations to play when we saw them a few weeks ago.  I just wish I knew why.  And yes, I've asked him many times if anything is making him sad or mad and he either says the immediate concern ("I'm mad because this isn't what I want for lunch") or he says no.

Anyways TL:DR, is this just the age despite it seeming so out of character for him or is there a way I can help him?[/quote][/quote]

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