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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a few words of understanding would go a long way.  Connect with hm.  See him.

He’s definitely hurting!

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I mean I try! The baby naps for 3-4 hours a day and we spend that time one on one. I give him so much love and affection. I listen to him. I honestly don’t know what else to do! (And for the record he isn’t that bad- he is still sunny 70% of the time I’d say, it’s just these outbursts , or occasionally whole days, that make me feel so bad) do you have any specific ideas? I will take any advice [/quote]

It sounds to me like you are doing what you can do and he needs to adjust to the fact that there is a baby in the house. It is a huge change for everyone. You had some idea what to expect with a baby because you are an adult who has had a kid. Your son is a kid who had no clue what was coming. He is used to all of your attention and now he doesn't get all your attention. It doesn't matter to him that you give him undivided attention when the baby is napping because he doesn't get your attention when the baby is awake.

I remember my Nephews response to my Nieces birth. SIL was holding baby Niece. Nephew, three years older, was trying to get Moms attention. He even said "Please give Niece to Aunt and pay attention to me." Five minutes later there was a huge tantrum. My SIL was confused where this came from when it was totally obvious to me, probably because I was not sleep deprived and raising two kids at the time. I took the baby and let SIL go to Nephew. Nephew settled down in about 30 seconds.

Your sons world has been turned upside down. You are giving him the attention he needs, he just didn't have a say in this huge change in his life and he is not happy about it all the time.

Does he have some special "big boy" activities that only he can do or something he can do to help you take care of the baby, you know, because he is a big boy. Maybe find some books that you can read to him about being a big sibling, ones that acknowledge the cons but point out the pros. [/quote]

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