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[quote=Anonymous]DH is super laid back. Rarely does the dirty work, rarely enforces rules. Kids are 8 and 10. Examples: will allow them to have soda, even though I am against it (except on rare occasions); doesn't enforce a reasonable bedtime; doesn't do anything to limit screen time (this is one of my biggest issues with him); doesn't break up fights or step in with a comment or some type of reaction when the kids say mean things to each other in the midst of an argument or disagreement. I try really hard not to be resentful, but I can feel it building. The kids call him "Mr Fun," and sometimes they will even say things like, "When is daddy coming home? Because he'll let us do/have X."  And sometimes he'll enforce things in a way that makes me the bad guy (for example, turning off the TV when he hears my car pull into the driveway and saying something to the kids like "mom's home, so we have to turn this off now." Or, saying something like "mom says no soda," so that the kids get the message that it isn't him who is saying no, it's me). I can't count the number of times I've raised this overarching issue with him, but nothing ever changes. We have gone through periods of counseling a few separate times over the years, but that also didn't seem to help us. I just feel like we're too different, and it worries me because I just end up feeling resentful and alone when it comes to many aspects of parenting, and I'm worried about the resentment I'm feeling. I should also mention that he is a very good-natured and happy person, which is great...except for when shit has to get done. Anyone else in this situation?[/quote]

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