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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think stopping is bad at all, and I'm sorry you're in this situation. Personally I feel like the never give up or it only takes one sayings can often do more harm than good. These are very expensive treatments, and the success rates can really vary but with some diagnosis's they are really low, not to mention the invasiveness of it all and how much of the treatment is on the female vs male. I stopped after 3 awful cycles and at first yes I thought what if I stopped too soon, even got comments like why didn't you keep trying you just never know. But my diagnosis was severe DOR, likely now to be POF, would not qualify for any shared risk programs, and also needed a surrogate so throwing gobs of money into trying with my own eggs was also just taking money away from the additional treatment we would need. It is okay to walk away from something that isn't working for you, or is mentally/financially hurting you. It's not been almost a year since I stopped trying with my own eggs and yes at first I felt pain/sadness/like I hadn't done enough, but honestly in time these thoughts mostly passed and I was able to see ust how bad my cycles were (2 eggs no fertilization, 3 eggs 1 mature 1 fert, and 5 eggs but no fert and only 1 mature). It helped that I was open to donor and had some examples in my life of people who had used donor options though for them it was mostly donor sperm. But I really liked how one of my friends had met so many of the children created by the donor she picked and had built relationships with their families/kids around the same age as her daughter. It helped to normalize it, as well as some books about raising donor convinced children.

I'm sorry you're in this situation OP, just hugs and solidarity in your direction. You might hear things like it only takes one, or to never give up, but with a poor diagnosis and so many out of pocket costs your stopping point whatever that is is completely valid. Hugs.[/quote]

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