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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A 4 year old should not be expected to have the self control to not scream. A baby learns to cry and cry louder when they need attention. A toddler can't regulate their emotions yet and the emotion takes over their brain. Your child screams when overcome. This is not something a time out really fixes. Age and brain maturity does.

Ignore the screaming and wait. His brain will catch up until he can hear you again. Punishing him when he has no control will lead to greater frustration because you will expect him to control something he just can't yet.[/quote]

^^^THIS

How old is the brother that is knocking down the legos? Is it literally JUST when his toys are messed with or is it all the time for any perceived injustice?

I would also work on breathing while you are at it. Model that behavior as well. Have him use it even during non-screaming episodes. Also daniel tiger has some good episodes on this right?[/quote]

+1 I know it's tempting to do timeouts but as you can see from how many people are posting they have the same problem, this is developmental. It doesn't mean you don't respond and coach him on how to respond differently, help him learn how to use his quiet voice and maybe use the approach of the other poster of the specific times it is appropriate to scream, but timeout isn't going to solve this and will just be a fight. Time is the answer. I'm sorry it sounds frustrating! i really do understand. [/quote]

I disagree somewhat. Brother knocks over legos on purpose and he screams. They both go to time out. Brother for knocking it over and other child for screaming. He can say no, he can say stop, he say I don’t like that, but screaming is not acceptable. If he wants to scream, he can go to a quiet place (time out) by himself and scream. People don’t just scream at each other, we talk. Babies cry because they have no other mechanism to use. Don’t use that BS as an excuse. [/quote]

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