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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Beautifully. He is decompressing in our home country. Taking a class, playing ball, and reconnecting with relatives. We talk once a week.[/quote]
You don’t even want to spend the summer with him? Of course you say “beautifully” you only have weekly contact.

Shame on you.[/quote]

Really? Shame on you Pp. What a judgey and rude post. [/quote]

Hi. This is the one whose kid is away. Thank you to the PP for the support.

My kid is in an extremely challenging academic program and earned ths break. At some point, he needs to choose where to live --here, or there.  This was the summer to do this. I think I'm parenting quite well since I'm not letting my need to be clingy and keep him close interfere with his need to get started on adult life.

How often you talk isn't a measure of love or affection.

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I agree that it's fine for the young adult to choose to live elsewhere and frequency of communication does not equal love.  The first response was quite bitchy.  But, I also wonder why you responded at all.  I think it's pretty clear that the OP was asking about what it's like for kids who have had some freedom to be home again, as that is known to be a difficult time.  So the response was inappropriate and a bit offputting, to my mind.  It's like when someone posts - cost of living is so high, how can we possibly save for college and retirement?  And there is a response from someone who is rich and therefore not concerned at all.  Just a bit tone deaf.[/quote]

Sorry you thought it was off-putting. But I thought I was answering the question directly. Not everyone's kid comes home that first summer. And you can struggle whether you talk regularly or not.

I guess you are assuming I don't miss him every day?[/quote]

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