Anonymous
07/01/2019 09:02
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Beautifully. He is decompressing in our home country. Taking a class, playing ball, and reconnecting with relatives. We talk once a week.
You don’t even want to spend the summer with him? Of course you say “beautifully” you only have weekly contact.
Shame on you.
Really? Shame on you Pp. What a judgey and rude post.
Hi. This is the one whose kid is away. Thank you to the PP for the support.
My kid is in an extremely challenging academic program and earned ths break. At some point, he needs to choose where to live --here, or there. This was the summer to do this. I think I'm parenting quite well since I'm not letting my need to be clingy and keep him close interfere with his need to get started on adult life.
How often you talk isn't a measure of love or affection.
I agree that it's fine for the young adult to choose to live elsewhere and frequency of communication does not equal love. The first response was quite bitchy. But, I also wonder why you responded at all. I think it's pretty clear that the OP was asking about what it's like for kids who have had some freedom to be home again, as that is known to be a difficult time. So the response was inappropriate and a bit offputting, to my mind. It's like when someone posts - cost of living is so high, how can we possibly save for college and retirement? And there is a response from someone who is rich and therefore not concerned at all. Just a bit tone deaf.
Sorry you thought it was off-putting. But I thought I was answering the question directly. Not everyone's kid comes home that first summer. And you can struggle whether you talk regularly or not.
I guess you are assuming I don't miss him every day?
Anonymous
07/01/2019 08:43
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Beautifully. He is decompressing in our home country. Taking a class, playing ball, and reconnecting with relatives. We talk once a week.
You don’t even want to spend the summer with him? Of course you say “beautifully” you only have weekly contact.
Shame on you.
Really? Shame on you Pp. What a judgey and rude post.
Hi. This is the one whose kid is away. Thank you to the PP for the support.
My kid is in an extremely challenging academic program and earned ths break. At some point, he needs to choose where to live --here, or there. This was the summer to do this. I think I'm parenting quite well since I'm not letting my need to be clingy and keep him close interfere with his need to get started on adult life.
How often you talk isn't a measure of love or affection.
I agree that it's fine for the young adult to choose to live elsewhere and frequency of communication does not equal love. The first response was quite bitchy. But, I also wonder why you responded at all. I think it's pretty clear that the OP was asking about what it's like for kids who have had some freedom to be home again, as that is known to be a difficult time. So the response was inappropriate and a bit offputting, to my mind. It's like when someone posts - cost of living is so high, how can we possibly save for college and retirement? And there is a response from someone who is rich and therefore not concerned at all. Just a bit tone deaf.
Anonymous
07/01/2019 08:38
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Beautifully. He is decompressing in our home country. Taking a class, playing ball, and reconnecting with relatives. We talk once a week.
You don’t even want to spend the summer with him? Of course you say “beautifully” you only have weekly contact.
Shame on you.
Really? Shame on you Pp. What a judgey and rude post.
Hi. This is the one whose kid is away. Thank you to the PP for the support.
My kid is in an extremely challenging academic program and earned ths break. At some point, he needs to choose where to live --here, or there. This was the summer to do this. I think I'm parenting quite well since I'm not letting my need to be clingy and keep him close interfere with his need to get started on adult life.
How often you talk isn't a measure of love or affection.
Anonymous
06/30/2019 14:11
Subject: Re:How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
So far it's been great. I've enjoyed having DS home. He's working, hanging out with friends and relaxing around the house. He has been helpful taking his younger brother places and running errands for me occasionally. We told him we just need to know when he'll be home so I'm not up at night frantically waiting for him to get home. My only complaint - he still leaves his stuff all over the house and I have to nag him to pick up his things when he just drops them in the common areas of our home.
Anonymous
06/30/2019 14:07
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Our DD is staying in her college town the first half of the summer, taking a class and working. She'll be home the second half, probably working though the job isn't nailed down. I'm looking forward to having her here for six weeks, either way, but I think three months would have felt long to all of us.
Anonymous
06/30/2019 12:58
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Any parents of daughters out there?
Anonymous
06/30/2019 10:57
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Wonderfully actually. He's a very good guy to have around.
Anonymous
06/30/2019 10:48
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
MY DS is working at a sleep over camp he attended as a child. While I would like to have more time with him home I know he would be bored around the house. He has no phone service and is enjoying being outdoors. He was home for 2 weeks in the beginning and will have about 2 more at then end,
Anonymous
06/30/2019 10:39
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Beautifully. He is decompressing in our home country. Taking a class, playing ball, and reconnecting with relatives. We talk once a week.
You don’t even want to spend the summer with him? Of course you say “beautifully” you only have weekly contact.
Shame on you.
Really? Shame on you Pp. What a judgey and rude post.
Anonymous
06/29/2019 22:59
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Anonymous wrote:Beautifully. He is decompressing in our home country. Taking a class, playing ball, and reconnecting with relatives. We talk once a week.
You don’t even want to spend the summer with him? Of course you say “beautifully” you only have weekly contact.
Shame on you.
Anonymous
06/29/2019 22:57
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Beautifully. He is decompressing in our home country. Taking a class, playing ball, and reconnecting with relatives. We talk once a week.
Anonymous
06/29/2019 18:36
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Try treating them like the adults they think they are -- it will go a long way.
Anonymous
06/29/2019 18:20
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
Fighting? None. It’s going really well. He does his thing and we do ours. We just ask for common courtesy like letting us know if you will be around for dinner or not, when or whether or not you will be coming home tonight, that sort of thing.
Anonymous
06/29/2019 18:14
Subject: How is your first summer, post college freshman year, going?
I am really happy to have my DC back home...but there have been some tensions. I realize he is not used to our close contact...but it makes me sad when we fight, since I know he will be leaving again, in less than 2 months.
Thought the home cooked food, cushy bubble (compared to dorm life) would be welcomed...but not so much. Sigh,,,
Thought the home cooked food, cushy bubble (compared to dorm life) would be welcomed...but not so much. Sigh,,,