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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is every other weekend not being brought to the table? What is the proposed schedule? Weeknights only?[/quote]

He may have the option to serve jail sentence on weekends only. This would allow him to work. He is proposing only weeknights. [/quote]

I share custody of my 9yo with her dad, who only sees her on the weekends because he is not available during the week. He picks her up from school most Fridays and drops her off with me Sunday after dinner. So as an arrangement, it helps minimize certain things (e.g., leaving stuff at non-custodial parent's house that is needed for school, transition difficulties). However, it requires me to be 100% of the time the taskmaster about homework and such. It means that we almost never get weekends together for weekend activities. It means that my ex does not have to think about things like snow days or school breaks beyond extending his already fun time with DD. But it is the way that they get to have a real relationship. Without this arrangement, he would basically only see her during the summer and winter break.

In your situation, I would want to know how he will manage the day to day activities for your child(ren). Is he a person who will make sure that they have the necessary school things? Will they bathe regularly and show up to school in clean clothing? Will he be on time to drop them off at school and pick them up? If a parent is not used to the weekday routine, it can be challenging to jump right into. Not all parents do it well. I also note that you're talking about a person contemplating changing a custody arrangement to accommodate jail, so I assume a baseline level of irresponsibility that would give me pause, but since you didn't give the specific circumstance, I suppose it's premature to judge.[/quote]

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