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[quote=Anonymous]I worked for over a decade before having kids and was by all means “successful” but I truly never valued my career as a source of confidence or meaning in my life. (So maybe that’s why I don’t miss working right now and haven’t felt like it impacted my sense of self-worth.) But I’ve always just sought out things that made me happy and tried not to let work get in the way of that. When I was younger, happiness (or success) was measured by the fullness of my calendar. I felt bummed about my life when it was just work and home but happy when it was filled with happy hours, brunches, vacations, day trips, concerts, sports, dates etc.

Now as a mom I actually find more opportunities for daily happiness and success because I’m not spending 50+ hours a week pleasing clients and bosses instead of living my life. What do you actually value in life? What little things bring you happiness? Start there.

I always wished I got into education policy (but went a different direction with my career) but I now really enjoy having a direct and daily impact on what my kids know and understand and are curious about. I like having time to experiment with new foods (even if my kids won’t touch it.) I like the freedom to travel or just go to museums or events on weekdays without worrying about how much vacation time I have. Overall I feel very happy (and therefore successful) with all the day to day things I can do and enjoy with my kids without the stress of work and other people’s priorities and deadlines taking up so much of my mental energy. I know that doesn’t directly answer your question but hopefully it offers a different perspective on how to measure and define your life. 
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