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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will make sure my daughters know you can’t have it all. I feel a little lied to. Growing up teachers said we could choose our own fields and that women could be any profession they wanted to be. Except so many work very long hours and don’t have maternity leave. I’m an engineer who has taken two unpaid maternity leaves which did impact my career. My friends who are teachers or nurses were easily able to take off and have maternity leave and then go back to work. Some careers even let you take 2-3 years off and then it’s easy to get a job again.

I think that until we live in a society where men are forced to take paternity leave (4 weeks and then 4 when mom goes back to work) things aren’t going to be equal. [/quote]

Yeah, this.  I'm a lawyer.  I wish I had considered how family-unfriendly this profession is.  It will never be until we get away from the billable hour.  I did struggle through my kids' early years and I also looked longingly at my friends who were teachers and nurses.  I also looked longingly at my doctor friends because they seemed to have it better than me!

I wouldn't discourage my kids from a career if that was their true passion but I would let them know the realities.  That goes for both my son and daughter.  If they wanted families I'd urge them to take work-life balance into consideration or just careers where the culture isn't so narrow-minded in terms of how you must move up the ladder.[/quote]

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