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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not really sure that you would have to give up your career. I am immunosuppressed and am an elementary school teacher. I do everything I can to prevent getting sick (constant handwashing, not touching doorknobs or students' pencils, clothes come off right when I get home and I get in the shower etc) but if my spouse was the one who was a teacher I wouldn't expect that he give up his career because of me. But I would expect he would do the best he could to avoid bringing germs home. What is your exact situation?[/quote]

+1.  Both of the scenarios OP presented seem workable to me.[/quote]

OP here. They aren't the exact situation, but it's a situation where there's not really a workable solution, [i][b]at least not one that spouse is willing to try. [/i][/b][/quote]

This to me is the key.

Which spouse isn’t willing to find a workable solution? The one working in the problem area, or the one who isn’t?

I will posit that both of the scenarios put forward in the OP are workable. Working in the medical field doesn’t actually expose you to more “things”, if you have proper infection control in place. Allergens are easily eliminated by removing clothing and washing clothes and person at the end of the day.

I would also wonder if the “other spouse” does not have a level of anxiety that needs to be addressed.

I work in hazardous materials management. I’ve been knee (or higher) deep in all kinds of stuff that people can’t imagine. I’ve never once felt scared to come home to my family, because I understand PPE, hygiene, and risk. I imagine anyone, from working in a biohaz lab, to working in a perfume factory with a smell sensitive spouse, can find a realistic workaround. [/quote]

If the spouse with the medical condition is insisting on an unnecessary sacrifice, that's on them.  I can't imagine a career that exposes you to something that you can't deal with.  If your spouse is immunosuppressed, you can keep teaching.  If they are allergic to dogs, you can be a vet.  You can make adjustments and accommodations, but giving up a career you enjoy should be close to a last resort.  [/quote]

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