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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you only have part-time custody and the friend is coming to visit during the time when you do have custody but she doesn't want your kid to be there?  Normally I'm all for child-free adult time, but it is a little crappy that she wants you to not have your kid when you only have them half the time.  If I were the friend in the situation I'd relent.  A friend wanting to see a friend who has full custody of her kids?  That one can definitely request child-free time.[/quote]

I am the visiting friend. I have limited vacation time, travel frequently as it is, and being away from my own kids to visit someone else whose kids are in the toddler stage seems less attractive than having 1:1 time with my friend. I'd like to see the kid; I just don't want to most of my visit outside of nap/bed-times with the kid as this necessarily means we'd be in semi-toddler mode (especially since she is accustomed to being very child-centric... which is fine, but not my own style necessarily at this stage of my own parenthood so it feels particularly child-centric).

Since the mother doesn't have full-time custody, I'd like to arrange the visit to be primarily when the child isn't there. My friend is a first time mother, needs some help over the summer, and really loves her child - as do I - and I'm not sure the request is going to go over very well.[/quote]

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