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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What can I do?  My 13 yo, who is so kind to everyone else is so mean and picks on 10yo. [b] If I discipline her it makes it worse and she accuses me of favoritism.  [/b]It is ruining every evening we are at home and no one has activities after school.

If I were to be honest I would say it is an awful home life for all of us.  I'm so overwhelmed.  Nothing seems to work.

Maybe I just need to let this out.

Thanks for reading.  [/quote]

In psychology your older daughter's behavior upon being disciplined for her misconduct is known as an "Extinction Burst."  In other words, when you rightfully discipline older daughter for bad behavior she is going to respond with a burst of worse behavior and protests of unfairness.  You have to be willing to live through that Extinction Burst, OP, in order to get to better behavior.

When you discipline your older daughter for poor behavior, prepare for a couple of weeks of worse behavior, and prepare for her lashing out at you and screaming unfair!  Continue to discipline her.   That's the only thing that's going to stop her behavior.  Every time you give up, you reinforce poor behavior.[/quote]

Get to it, OP![/quote]

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