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[quote=Anonymous]Hey everyone! 
So I had my first baby 6 yrs ago. All was great, it was the most fulfilling experience of my life. I was super happy. I was home full time and felt it was a good fit for me and us. Soon after, my dad had a massive stroke. He had been my closest family member. He lost his ability to speak and live independently. It took a huge toll on me. He died a few yrs later. The stroke actually had a bigger impact on me than his death bc he was still alive, but not him. So it was a big adjustment and loss in itself. So it ended up being like two deaths of the same person.

I had my second baby soon after my dad passed away. And soon  after that, we moved for my husbands job. Somewhere between all the trauma and loss with my dad while being a new mom and then starting over again in terms location and a home, I feel like I may not have known it at the time, but I changed and lost a lot of who I was before. I was basically trying to manage my emotions surrounding loss during hormonal and sleepless stages, etc with minimal support from friends/family because we did not live local to anyone really.

So here I am  6 yrs later, no dad, my 2 babies arent babies anymore, in a new(ish) home in a new(ish) place, with lots of trauma/drama that went down mixed with lots of really happy times - so definitely a roller coaster. Seems like so much happened in a short time and I am a very diferent person than I was before. I want to be the best version of myself and I feel like I was but then I lost her along the way while it was all going on. Anyone experience anything like this and how did you get back to the best version of yourself?? Thanks in advance![/quote]

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