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[quote=Anonymous]The very beginning was wonderful: DH took three weeks off, we went our DS to daycare, and it was just lovely and joyous time together. We had a much easier time than with our first, because we knew what we were doing.

Then DD got her first illness at seven weeks, and we all got sick, which was the start of a wretched year-plus illness-wise for all four of us. Lots and lots of illnesses, which strained us both, and we were often in survival mode together.

And then after going back to work, I developed post-partum depression. That took about six months to recover from.

And along with that recurrent sinus infections that lead to an intestinal infection from too many antibiotics and sinus surgery. And work issues that finally lead to my first panic attack and the need to treat anxiety with meds and therapy...and after that was stable, a diagnosis of adult ADHD.

All that to say: The process of having and raising one of the absolute greatest joys of my life cost me in ways I did not expect, because I hit breaking points I didn't expect.

What I also found that I did not expect was deep, deep trust and appreciation for my DH that went far beyond what I had before, because of how he stood by me and compensated for me when I was unwell in various ways.

And the whole experience of having a second made us appreciate our team work in new ways--even when things were crazy, we often said, "I'd never want to be doing this with anyone but you." 
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